This caught my eye as also true in personal observation and on a larger scale:
My kids are waaaaaay better versions of me as far as I can tell. I look at every personality trait as a double edged sword–could be good, could be bad depending on how it’s honed. It’s always going to be a mix of both, but the point of parenting is to bend it toward the good.
Example: Older one is reserved, sensitive, empathetic, gentle, thoughtful, etc… He could’ve ended up as a shy kid who lacked confidence, but instead he’s a self composed, rock solid person of faith. He’s also a loyal and giving friend who is exceedingly polite and earnest.
He never gets in trouble. Teachers and coaches love him. After a long struggle to get him to be more forward in speaking up and asking question, he’s now a straight A student. And this is in the gifted program.
Younger kid is his polar opposite–brash, outgoing, confident, charming, competitive, very loving and kind, but not above holding a grudge and getting even with you if he feels wronged.
All those traits could spell trouble, but we’ve bent them the right way. His teachers love him, too, mostly for how he leads by example and always tries to help his classmates with anything they’re struggling with, even if it’s just having a bad day.
Honestly, he just charms everyone he meets, and it’s not some look-at-me-i’m-so-cute act. He genuinely likes people and his social skills are so good that he’ll just chat with you like an adult.
The young of our nations require adult guidance as they mature. Absent that guidance, girls become either thots or slugs. Boys became either douchebags or weaklings.
Recent generations relied on their communities and extended families to provide that guidance. And above all, they trusted the institutions of social democracy to raise their children toward their potential. And then community fell out from under us, extended families scattered with the winds. Above all, it became clear to us that our governments are the enemy. This is why we are returning to pre-industrial ways of raising our sons and daughters ourselves. Our multigenerational task is to rebuild communities, extended families, and social institutions that are once again exclusively ours.