Why marry? To have children. There is no other reason, but optimally the added value of being married includes doubling the size of your family and expanding your social circle, career-friendly optics, psychological ballast as you age, and sometimes you might even gosh-darned like the chick you know inside-out who’s curled up next to you. But does a marriageable girl even exist in a feminist society? A commenter at Alpha Game says “Yes” and he describes her:
1. She has few (or no “real”) girlfriends.
2. She’s never in the middle of girl-drama.
3. She never induces white-knighting urges.
4. She clearly prefers the company of men-as-friends.
5. She sticks with one romantic interest and doesn’t flirt with other men.
6. (guessing on this one) She desires a traditional life: Lifetime husband, kids, house, white picket fence, dog, etc., and structures her life to that goal.
That is a perceptive list, except for 1 and 4 — those are bright, lurid, pulsating warning beacons. A woman with no female friends becomes that way because she repels people who aren’t interested in her pussy; i.e., other women. She also actively avoids friendship with women because unlike fawning male “friends,” fellow-femmes demand a modicum of pleasant personality and semblance of a giving character in a girlfriend.
OK, sometimes you can find an unconventional, in many such cases a highly intelligent woman, who can’t relate to other women. Still beware — atypical female personality comes with unfeminine deal-breakers. Do you want to be the one running around the house with the vacuum cleaner?
The reader at Alpha Game continues:
It helps if she was an ugly duckling (or geographically isolated from the social milieu, e.g. with a chronic illness) during her post-adolescent years (13-17), thus avoiding the mind-warping influence of being orbited by a retinue of young men.
“Ugly ducking” should mean that she was a late-bloomer, not literally ugly. Avoid ugly and obese women, and not just for the tautological reasons. (One would think I needn’t tell men to avoid unattractive women, and yet the couples I see because of so much thirst that’s out there…). Go for the girl who is over your attractiveness threshold but with the best character possible.
The face mirrors the character. A frumpy physiognomy is shaped by a frumpy attitude toward life. As cruel as it may sound, stay clear of women with chronic illness, unless you want an expensive and very limiting life with her, along with bad genes to pass to your children. Same with obese women — she’s fat because she is a slob with poor self-control. Young man, a piggy doesn’t deserve and won’t appreciate your love.
A girl like this is “available” for a very brief time before someone locks her down for the long term.
Witness. Something I noticed immediately after my senior year of high school, while I was getting blowjobs from drunk girls at parties, is that the cute wallflower classmate of mine was off marrying the quiet twenty-something dude she took to the prom several months earlier.
She is the unusual: a woman with the capacity to reason, and (generally) zero interest in running (or ruining) other’s lives.
That reader I’m quoting describes a woman without an overflowing abundance of ebullient femaleness. The nice girl is something mature men appreciate in concept, but as downside those girls do not signal sexually and a young man (for whom this post is written) wants a sexpot. He overlooks the potentially ideal wife in favor of the hormonal, gilded fertility-goddess he wants to bang. The thing is, everyone else wants to bang the hottie too. Go for it and wife her up, Mr. Tight Game, but first glance up at the title of this post. Can you handle the liabilities that come with such a babe? Paul McCartney couldn’t even handle a one-legged model.
Is this a post about unicorns? Are the decent wives and mothers “still on the other side of bloody revolution,” as a reader here once asked? A commenter at Alpha Game posted a similar question last year, to which Vox replied that women conform to their peer groups, so in order to find good wife material, look not for a girl that is traditional in an absolute sense (she is rare), but in the relative sense. In other words, go for the most traditional girl relative to her peer group.
My earlier “Marriage Advice to a Millennial” offers an unconventional but effective formula for beating the odds of getting divorced once you are married.